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You Don’t Really Believe All That Positive Motivation Stuff, Do You?

If you believe that everyone should embrace their weirdness, don’t accept limitations, stand up for what’s good and true, and only focus on the positive…

How come so many of you spend so much time downplaying or flat out insulting those who are different? Then trying to get me and other people to tone it down, don’t ask too many questions, don’t set the record straight, don’t take it personal when cultural lies are perpetuated, or point out when even you have said something totally offensive or untrue? Freedom of speach was meant to protect us and the truth; not to be an aid to bullying, prejudice and discrimination.

Not guilty? Well did you tell your click that they were being bullies when they did it or just watch? I’ve only seen one man display this type of courage. Now he’s an outsider, oh I noticed.
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It’s an honest question and I know I’ve struck a nerve because according to Klout I’m in the top 10% of social media users. Now if that’s the case then my experience could be perceived as normal or better than average. If I get attacked by influencers who should know better, then how many other people like me experience the same thing or worse from your followers? Sadly the influencers are teaching their audiences how to keep up the same old exclusivity, racial stereotypes, and passive aggressive discussions that have plagued corporate America since integration. White women and minority males are among the worst culprits (trying to fit in at all costs)… But this doesn’t exclude sexist comments.

I was part of the Army’s initiative on sensitivity training, I’ve helped with diversity in schools and corporations… I think I know by now the symptoms and conditions that cause a hostile work environment. Guess what, this is our work environment… especially for those of you claiming to be brand builders, managers and ambassadors. Would you share porn or racist cartoons at a networking event in your office?

How can you be quick to tell someone who doesn’t look like you and has completely different experiences that they couldn’t possibly know what they’re talking about in a very insulting manner unless you have a slight case of bias? Don’t want to admit it? That’s your prerogative and just means you’re weak, defensive and not ready to be all that you can be.

Leaders help others grow by embracing their own lessons. We don’t know we need a lesson until we get it… So how are you so certain you don’t need one? How do you know racism, if you’re not the one being targeted unless you listen?

The older I get, the more I remember and notice how much has not really changed. If I do nothing, then I am no leader and not living my purpose. I am not an activist, lobbyist, or a political fighter. I simply address issues that come into my lane to address. I believe those were given to me, to do my part. If you can’t take it from me, as one of the least racially conscious people I know, you have serious issues and are perpetuating the problem.

Being a passive aggressive bully that makes people around you and across social media afraid to speak up for truth against injustice, discrimination and unfair treatment is more disgusting than being a flat out racist. You pretend to care but make the way clear for violence and atrocities to be committed while trying to convince the person who deals with it that it’s in their mind; and who do they think they are to ask for better? If you truly want to be a person who avoids conflict, stay out of it and mind your own business if that’s all you care about.

Actively trying to deny the rights of a person who is different than you from expressing the reality of their situation, perspective and experience, plain and simple disqualifies you from being a coach, leader, mentor, or authority of any kind. If I see it I will make sure you don’t get any extra influence points off me.

Oh, who am I? I’m the first at many things, degreed online and off (for you haters), an infantry soldier, a northerner and southerner, born abroad, with mixed ancestry, friends of all races and nationalities, excelled at many great jobs and walked away to start a community organization… and I’m a brown skinned Native American female over 40 who truly believes in embracing your weirdness and freedom for all. I’m qualified to speak on the subject… and coach on it. Don’t know where to begin? Ask for help, it’s worth it.

Let’s discuss it… http://xeeme.com/AndréaRaquel

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Can Music Lead To Better Race Relations?

#MetroJethro
I’m gonna beat this horse until I get tired…

To each his own and all that crap. You can like whatever music you want. But what you can’t do is get away with saying things like “rap and country should never mix.” Why not pray tell???

Do you realize you just disregarded a whole culture of folks??? Not that you care if you go around saying things like this; but here are people who fit nicely between the two worlds and naturally merge them together. Yeah you know, the ones you rarely hear about in the media. The black duck dynasty types, the brown skinned Paula Deens, the Charlie Prides… believe it or not there’s lots of country, good old boy non-white folks. Quit acting like all hillbillies are racist and all black folks sag their pants. It’s a very limited view of reality and it is untrue. Just stop already!

SMDH!!! Here’s an article for those who need to hear the long version of why because I don’t have the time or energy to rehash all the ridiculous racial faux pas I here and see daily online… http://sunnysinghonline.blogspot.com/2014/02/an-open-letter-to-white-friends-how-not.html?m=1

Those who actually care will read and get a major lesson from Sunny’s article. Feel free to ask questions of her or me.

Check out my tweet @SugarFreeCoach’s regarding the release of Achy Breaky heart with Billy Ray Cyrus and Buck 22: https://twitter.com/SugarFreeCoach/status/433916002204536833

Let’s discuss it… http://xeeme.com/AndréaRaquel