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If you’ve got a family, be grateful and do right by them. No matter how your family unit is designed let it be a loving example to the world starting with you.
Don’t chase $$ claiming it’s all for them. Then ignore the why, by working yourself to death or neglecting family. You’ve got a team and you can’t nurture it by throwing money at it. Set an example… (more).

Focus on family

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Coffee Is Not The Devil

As the old folks used to say,

A hit dog will holler.

You can stop sending hate mail now…

I did not say coffee is bad! I didn’t say don’t drink it. I am not a fan, but I may have a cup every blue moon. Black coffee is great for congestion and mocha latte is my sweet cheat. Coffee is not the devil.

What I said was if you’re a coach, therapist, advisor, whatever type of leader who is in the business of telling people how to live better… maybe stop telling the world you can’t function without coffee while telling others how to be positive, eat right, be successful, healthy, get a job, an education or let go of addiction or any other problems. You can’t teach what you don’t know. Apparently you don’t know how to function without coffee.

You are the blind leading the blind because you are addicted to caffeine and or sugar. “No one’s perfect and everyone has their vice, ways to cope, home remedies, etc.” I hear you and agree the sooner that is realized socially the better. But offering tips and telling people who aren’t like you how to live, think and act is the crux of the issue. The addiction is the line… “can’t function without” was my focus. You don’t have to like what I like, I don’t have to be a “coffee drinker,” a sugar addict, a crackhead or have permed hair to understand.

Everyone would have a job if they thought like you. Right? They’d have wealth if they were more positive. They aren’t successful because they don’t know the Law of Attraction, they can’t lose weight unless they train like you and they must all not eat GMO or be duped by the political agenda of government…. But meanwhile you can’t say any of this until you’ve had your coffee. Maybe every crime, miscellaneous infraction in Hollywood, job loss, and politician you don’t like just didn’t get to have any coffee… If it’s an excuse for you why not them?

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#LivingSugarFree is not a diet.

It is also an epic PR fail for the hypocrite, it’s bad marketing… I and surely others don’t trust your wisdom now. How can I follow your advice if I don’t add coffee? That was your free tip because I care. Your welcome.

I stepped on some toes of folks near and far… Some very close to me, but they know better. I don’t mince words and I don’t need anyone to translate. If you want to set yourself apart from the foolishness, talk about things that no one wants to talk about, least of all you.
Thank you.

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You’re Not #LivingSugarFree If You’re A Bully

#TurnUpTuesday #BulliesandHaters get no energy. This post can help lots of folks reading it right now in various situations, once you figure out which shoe fits.

No one knows if I’m talking to you but you! If you get mad, I’m definitely talking to you. image

If you are a client or friend and get emotional, start calling names and twisting my words, I stop talking. No human or the spirits tormenting them, will ever steal my joy!

To a logical person (logic is an actual discipline, don’t throw the word around loosely), your point does not become more valid because you add, we talked about you and Johnny agrees.” LOL!!! If anything your opinion is now less valid.

There are laws of debate and logic (Google it, I’m not teaching that lesson here) like everything else. Getting caught up in your own feelings does not make the other person wrong or evil. Watch your mouth lest you reveal your own underlying frustrations, hate and jealousy.

My ability to remain calm and strategically raise my voice when physically threatened comes from dealing with bullies. I’m good at it, from years of survival and many more years of learning how to rise above it. Read the book Blink, if you want to learn to not judge intent or integrity by tone of voice. Many people get angry because I talk directly to them regardless of what comes out of their mouth… it’s because I’m always listening, even when you forget to clean it up.

At the point you threaten someone, attack them, lie on them, etc. your feelings are not my priority. If you want me to care about your feelings and not show you my pitbull skills, don’t try to bully me or anyone else around me. I’m true to my brand, beliefs and philosophy so I’m consistant with my words. I don’t hold grudges because I address issues immediately. I am the Sugar Free Coach, all the time. It’s not just a brand, the brand is who I am.

Don’t claim to learn from me and think I’m logical, wise and a social entrepreneur and then call me names because I stepped on your toes. That’s my job as a coach… and I’m faithful with it on your worst days and best. If you can’t receive it from me on your bad days (which many folks don’t even admit to having), with my reputation of “trust, honesty and getting to the root of a matter,” who do you receive it from? No one?

This behavior is sadly typical and if you act like this, you probably do it to everyone at some point. They just don’t say anything because you’re a bully. Calling names to get your point across, judging others who aren’t like you, and bullying are never okay… whether you realize you do it, or are conscious of it, or not. Sadly what you have done is condition your loved ones to take it from everyone else, possibly stunting their growth and success, as well as your own in the long run.

Your only solution…
Stop trying to tell others what to do or how to be, unless they ask (avoid even the subtleties of sucking your teeth, rolling your eyes, being smug, or plotting your revenge just because they didn’t do it your way or please you)… and if you’re around me, don’t ask me to help unless you’re ready to receive (this also means gossiping, complaining around me, sounding annoyed or otherwise going on and on about what irritates you when others are working on solutions). I mean you can do whatever you want, but you can’t control my response.

News flash, life is tough for me too. Only I don’t piss and moan about it, or refuse to act because it’s too hard. However I do refuse to entertain drama while rising above it. That’s a no brainer. Have you ever tried to help someone solve a problem and suddenly you become the center of their frustration? This is a common disfunction… caused by blaming others for internal issues.

If I give solutions or try to reason with you and you don’t receive it, I will shut up… unless you take it as an opportunity to attack me, lie, try and bully me, call me names, or say I think I know everything. I will address why you are in my presence, pretending to think I’m wise counsel, using me as such when it suits you, and waiting for an opportunity to say otherwise?

I know why, but I’d rather give you the opportunity to self discover than to call you a hater. If self discovery is not an option, I remove myself and let you self destruct. It’s all good if we’re not birds of a feather. You don’t have to agree with me, or talk to me, cause I’m not a bully. See how that works?

…and yes this too is #LivingSugarFree

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