Category Archives: Social

Taking a survey vs. being concerned

Are you okay?

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•I really didn’t want details, I was just being polite.
•It doesn’t really matter I just needed a favor
•I don’t really have time to listen so hurry up.
•Oh that’s too much, I didn’t expect you to have problems.

Sound familiar?

Probably not, but you certainly feel like that’s what they mean when you’re snubbed after being asked, don’t you?

Time to recognize, honor and be a good steward of your real friends. They may not always say what you want to hear, or be able to do what you want them to do; but you have decided they are your friend, mentor, coach, confident, etc. for a reason. Don’t waste your time looking for a shoulder or ear with folks you don’t know and/or don’t trust.

Let’s discuss it… http://xeeme.com/Andréa Raquel

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#HumpdayShift Challenge

Try #LivingSugarFree from non-essentials one day a week. Start with the thing you think you can’t give up (coffee addicts, this means go a whole day without and be nice anyhow, just as you would expect a crack addict to do). *Air, water, nutrition, and love (expressed not received) are essential.

Read more on my website…

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#LivingSugarFree Together

Shared from #LivingSugarFree #Leadership #FamilyValues
If you’ve got a family, be grateful and do right by them. No matter how your family unit is designed let it be a loving example to the world starting with you.
Don’t chase $$ claiming it’s all for them. Then ignore the why, by working yourself to death or neglecting family. You’ve got a team and you can’t nurture it by throwing money at it. Set an example… (more).

Focus on family

Quacks Like A Duck

Shared from What Makes An Eagle Quack Like A Duck?

There’s a not so fine line between being nice and being naive when making decisions about your friends, partners and social circles.

Some folks deceive themselves into thinking that they are being nice when they carry on with relationships that are unfruitful and unproductive. But when you refuse to walk away from someone that you know lacks integrity… (more).

 

Birds of a feather…

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When To Mind Your Own Business

#LivingSugarFree of Complainers:

Don’t be deceived by spirits of discontent, strife, and bitterness.

Have you ever made the mistake of trying to break up a fight between two angry lovers? You probably still have the physical and/oremotional scars to remind you.

The same thing happens when you get between God and his ungrateful children. You know the ones, no matter how things change or improve, if it’s not their way, they are not happy. People need to learn their own lessons… When you get in the way you become their scapegoat; helping them avoid the actual lesson.

My advice:

  1. Let complainers complain.
  2. Don’t offer advice, or solutions unless they ask…
  3. And if you value your peace, by all means don’t point out their misery.

If you get blind sided in the name of trying to help or cheer someone up, just remember this additional advice.

  1. Don’t take it personal and write off the attack as a great lesson in wisdom… you probably won’t forget again because, it’s true for you too. Experience is the best teacher.
  2. Listen to Pharrell’s Happy song to shake it off and refocus your energy.

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Coffee Is Not The Devil

As the old folks used to say,

A hit dog will holler.

You can stop sending hate mail now…

I did not say coffee is bad! I didn’t say don’t drink it. I am not a fan, but I may have a cup every blue moon. Black coffee is great for congestion and mocha latte is my sweet cheat. Coffee is not the devil.

What I said was if you’re a coach, therapist, advisor, whatever type of leader who is in the business of telling people how to live better… maybe stop telling the world you can’t function without coffee while telling others how to be positive, eat right, be successful, healthy, get a job, an education or let go of addiction or any other problems. You can’t teach what you don’t know. Apparently you don’t know how to function without coffee.

You are the blind leading the blind because you are addicted to caffeine and or sugar. “No one’s perfect and everyone has their vice, ways to cope, home remedies, etc.” I hear you and agree the sooner that is realized socially the better. But offering tips and telling people who aren’t like you how to live, think and act is the crux of the issue. The addiction is the line… “can’t function without” was my focus. You don’t have to like what I like, I don’t have to be a “coffee drinker,” a sugar addict, a crackhead or have permed hair to understand.

Everyone would have a job if they thought like you. Right? They’d have wealth if they were more positive. They aren’t successful because they don’t know the Law of Attraction, they can’t lose weight unless they train like you and they must all not eat GMO or be duped by the political agenda of government…. But meanwhile you can’t say any of this until you’ve had your coffee. Maybe every crime, miscellaneous infraction in Hollywood, job loss, and politician you don’t like just didn’t get to have any coffee… If it’s an excuse for you why not them?

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#LivingSugarFree is not a diet.

It is also an epic PR fail for the hypocrite, it’s bad marketing… I and surely others don’t trust your wisdom now. How can I follow your advice if I don’t add coffee? That was your free tip because I care. Your welcome.

I stepped on some toes of folks near and far… Some very close to me, but they know better. I don’t mince words and I don’t need anyone to translate. If you want to set yourself apart from the foolishness, talk about things that no one wants to talk about, least of all you.
Thank you.

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Give Your Emotions A Swift Kick

Have you seen that commercial where the lady is lugging her depreasion around, even after medication. Then they suggest she needs a second medicine to really control it. Seriously? I think it’s time to admit, the medication may not be working.
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Low self-esteem is a sign of self centeredness and deception. Not in all cases, but in many situations people are caught up in their own problems, with no time or care for those around them. Then they wonder why they feel alienated. If you only go around people when you need something, never accept invitations to spend time, and only call to complain; the person you’re dumping on and pulling from will eventually follow the advice they are probably giving to you. To surround themselves with people who uplift them and pour into them rather than those who only take.

Are you a taker? Which is not the same thing as receiving. When someone gives to you freely as in unsolicited advice, gifts, or a position and you have a hard time receiving you’re probably a taker who only wants what you want when you want it. All other gifts are received as a burden.

There is an epidemic of rushing around and being a slave to life while complaining about having no time. You are either long on money or you’re long on time. If you have neither you need to get a clue because something is seriously wrong with your situation and you’re basically a slave. Since slavery has been outlawed, you are choosing to remain in bondage for comfort sake, so quit your complaining.

If you continuously complain about your situation to others who are no better off, it’s probably out of deception. Either you want to dissuade them from asking you for something, you are covering up some skeletons or you feel guilty about living in your comfortable bubble so you make it seem worse. Own your mask or it will eventually be mistaken for your character.

This is good advice for you whether you are rich or poor; old or young; black or white; male or female; or any other excuse you can think of why it should not pertain to you.

If you can’t figure it out, ask.

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You Don’t Really Believe All That Positive Motivation Stuff, Do You?

If you believe that everyone should embrace their weirdness, don’t accept limitations, stand up for what’s good and true, and only focus on the positive…

How come so many of you spend so much time downplaying or flat out insulting those who are different? Then trying to get me and other people to tone it down, don’t ask too many questions, don’t set the record straight, don’t take it personal when cultural lies are perpetuated, or point out when even you have said something totally offensive or untrue? Freedom of speach was meant to protect us and the truth; not to be an aid to bullying, prejudice and discrimination.

Not guilty? Well did you tell your click that they were being bullies when they did it or just watch? I’ve only seen one man display this type of courage. Now he’s an outsider, oh I noticed.
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It’s an honest question and I know I’ve struck a nerve because according to Klout I’m in the top 10% of social media users. Now if that’s the case then my experience could be perceived as normal or better than average. If I get attacked by influencers who should know better, then how many other people like me experience the same thing or worse from your followers? Sadly the influencers are teaching their audiences how to keep up the same old exclusivity, racial stereotypes, and passive aggressive discussions that have plagued corporate America since integration. White women and minority males are among the worst culprits (trying to fit in at all costs)… But this doesn’t exclude sexist comments.

I was part of the Army’s initiative on sensitivity training, I’ve helped with diversity in schools and corporations… I think I know by now the symptoms and conditions that cause a hostile work environment. Guess what, this is our work environment… especially for those of you claiming to be brand builders, managers and ambassadors. Would you share porn or racist cartoons at a networking event in your office?

How can you be quick to tell someone who doesn’t look like you and has completely different experiences that they couldn’t possibly know what they’re talking about in a very insulting manner unless you have a slight case of bias? Don’t want to admit it? That’s your prerogative and just means you’re weak, defensive and not ready to be all that you can be.

Leaders help others grow by embracing their own lessons. We don’t know we need a lesson until we get it… So how are you so certain you don’t need one? How do you know racism, if you’re not the one being targeted unless you listen?

The older I get, the more I remember and notice how much has not really changed. If I do nothing, then I am no leader and not living my purpose. I am not an activist, lobbyist, or a political fighter. I simply address issues that come into my lane to address. I believe those were given to me, to do my part. If you can’t take it from me, as one of the least racially conscious people I know, you have serious issues and are perpetuating the problem.

Being a passive aggressive bully that makes people around you and across social media afraid to speak up for truth against injustice, discrimination and unfair treatment is more disgusting than being a flat out racist. You pretend to care but make the way clear for violence and atrocities to be committed while trying to convince the person who deals with it that it’s in their mind; and who do they think they are to ask for better? If you truly want to be a person who avoids conflict, stay out of it and mind your own business if that’s all you care about.

Actively trying to deny the rights of a person who is different than you from expressing the reality of their situation, perspective and experience, plain and simple disqualifies you from being a coach, leader, mentor, or authority of any kind. If I see it I will make sure you don’t get any extra influence points off me.

Oh, who am I? I’m the first at many things, degreed online and off (for you haters), an infantry soldier, a northerner and southerner, born abroad, with mixed ancestry, friends of all races and nationalities, excelled at many great jobs and walked away to start a community organization… and I’m a brown skinned Native American female over 40 who truly believes in embracing your weirdness and freedom for all. I’m qualified to speak on the subject… and coach on it. Don’t know where to begin? Ask for help, it’s worth it.

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How to Regain Control of Your Online Information

#CleanHouse
Wondering why everyone is asking you to add their business page to your newsfeed? I hope you will add mine after reading this.

We’ve discovered that even if you like your best friend’s Facebook Page page, you may never see their posts. Sometimes even a search comes up empty. That’s Facebook maintaining their shareholder value.

They have their agenda, but you do have options. Take control of your information and communication by managing your newsfeeds.

When you joined Facebook and most other social sites you may have had a few familiar faces to follow, but more than likely you filled your newsfeed with all familiar brands. Well now with the paid Marketing features, that’s all you see.

Take control, support family and friends, and keep FB from going the way of Ma Bell by unfollowing the brands that you’re sick of being bombarded by. Then follow friends, family, favorites and local brands. You do this by hovering over the LIKE button and adding tthem to your newsfeed or favorites. This will make your newsfeed relevant to you and not just targeted at you. There’s a new star button on Twitter now that hopefully will give the same result.

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Can Music Lead To Better Race Relations?

#MetroJethro
I’m gonna beat this horse until I get tired…

To each his own and all that crap. You can like whatever music you want. But what you can’t do is get away with saying things like “rap and country should never mix.” Why not pray tell???

Do you realize you just disregarded a whole culture of folks??? Not that you care if you go around saying things like this; but here are people who fit nicely between the two worlds and naturally merge them together. Yeah you know, the ones you rarely hear about in the media. The black duck dynasty types, the brown skinned Paula Deens, the Charlie Prides… believe it or not there’s lots of country, good old boy non-white folks. Quit acting like all hillbillies are racist and all black folks sag their pants. It’s a very limited view of reality and it is untrue. Just stop already!

SMDH!!! Here’s an article for those who need to hear the long version of why because I don’t have the time or energy to rehash all the ridiculous racial faux pas I here and see daily online… http://sunnysinghonline.blogspot.com/2014/02/an-open-letter-to-white-friends-how-not.html?m=1

Those who actually care will read and get a major lesson from Sunny’s article. Feel free to ask questions of her or me.

Check out my tweet @SugarFreeCoach’s regarding the release of Achy Breaky heart with Billy Ray Cyrus and Buck 22: https://twitter.com/SugarFreeCoach/status/433916002204536833

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