Monthly Archives: November 2013

You’re Not #LivingSugarFree If You’re A Bully

#TurnUpTuesday #BulliesandHaters get no energy. This post can help lots of folks reading it right now in various situations, once you figure out which shoe fits.

No one knows if I’m talking to you but you! If you get mad, I’m definitely talking to you. image

If you are a client or friend and get emotional, start calling names and twisting my words, I stop talking. No human or the spirits tormenting them, will ever steal my joy!

To a logical person (logic is an actual discipline, don’t throw the word around loosely), your point does not become more valid because you add, we talked about you and Johnny agrees.” LOL!!! If anything your opinion is now less valid.

There are laws of debate and logic (Google it, I’m not teaching that lesson here) like everything else. Getting caught up in your own feelings does not make the other person wrong or evil. Watch your mouth lest you reveal your own underlying frustrations, hate and jealousy.

My ability to remain calm and strategically raise my voice when physically threatened comes from dealing with bullies. I’m good at it, from years of survival and many more years of learning how to rise above it. Read the book Blink, if you want to learn to not judge intent or integrity by tone of voice. Many people get angry because I talk directly to them regardless of what comes out of their mouth… it’s because I’m always listening, even when you forget to clean it up.

At the point you threaten someone, attack them, lie on them, etc. your feelings are not my priority. If you want me to care about your feelings and not show you my pitbull skills, don’t try to bully me or anyone else around me. I’m true to my brand, beliefs and philosophy so I’m consistant with my words. I don’t hold grudges because I address issues immediately. I am the Sugar Free Coach, all the time. It’s not just a brand, the brand is who I am.

Don’t claim to learn from me and think I’m logical, wise and a social entrepreneur and then call me names because I stepped on your toes. That’s my job as a coach… and I’m faithful with it on your worst days and best. If you can’t receive it from me on your bad days (which many folks don’t even admit to having), with my reputation of “trust, honesty and getting to the root of a matter,” who do you receive it from? No one?

This behavior is sadly typical and if you act like this, you probably do it to everyone at some point. They just don’t say anything because you’re a bully. Calling names to get your point across, judging others who aren’t like you, and bullying are never okay… whether you realize you do it, or are conscious of it, or not. Sadly what you have done is condition your loved ones to take it from everyone else, possibly stunting their growth and success, as well as your own in the long run.

Your only solution…
Stop trying to tell others what to do or how to be, unless they ask (avoid even the subtleties of sucking your teeth, rolling your eyes, being smug, or plotting your revenge just because they didn’t do it your way or please you)… and if you’re around me, don’t ask me to help unless you’re ready to receive (this also means gossiping, complaining around me, sounding annoyed or otherwise going on and on about what irritates you when others are working on solutions). I mean you can do whatever you want, but you can’t control my response.

News flash, life is tough for me too. Only I don’t piss and moan about it, or refuse to act because it’s too hard. However I do refuse to entertain drama while rising above it. That’s a no brainer. Have you ever tried to help someone solve a problem and suddenly you become the center of their frustration? This is a common disfunction… caused by blaming others for internal issues.

If I give solutions or try to reason with you and you don’t receive it, I will shut up… unless you take it as an opportunity to attack me, lie, try and bully me, call me names, or say I think I know everything. I will address why you are in my presence, pretending to think I’m wise counsel, using me as such when it suits you, and waiting for an opportunity to say otherwise?

I know why, but I’d rather give you the opportunity to self discover than to call you a hater. If self discovery is not an option, I remove myself and let you self destruct. It’s all good if we’re not birds of a feather. You don’t have to agree with me, or talk to me, cause I’m not a bully. See how that works?

…and yes this too is #LivingSugarFree

Let’s discuss it… http://xeeme.com/AndréaRaquel

#LivingSugarFree PSA: These Are Not Entry Level Careers

#LivingSugarFree PSA:
These Are Not Entry Level Careers

1. Coach
2. President
3. Mayor
4. Doctor
5. Speaker
6. Counselor
7. Pastor
8. Consultant
9. Producer
10. Governor
11. Judge
12. Therapist
13. Guru
14. Sage
15. Sansai

Taking advice, supporting, endorsing or otherwise investing in people with these titles?

If so, you better damn well know what they did before and if they were any good at it. Not to mention their reputation for service and integrity.

I could have made the list shorter to avoid redundency or longer to make it dumby proof. But I think you get the point.

Let’s discuss it… http://xeeme.com/AndréaRaquel

In The Right Place At The Right Time! | #HumpdayShift

#LivingSugarFree #TXNL

Shake it up, shake it off and keep it movin’!

The Sugar Free Coach is always in exactly the the right place at exactly the right time…

Wondering how? Here are a few best practices:

1. Don’t worry about folks’ opinions … especially bullys.  

So what if they call you weird & scary!

2. Do you!

Embrace your weirdness and do something scary.

3. Love your haters…  

From a distance if necessary, and with rebuke when prompted.

Let’s discuss it… http://xeeme.com/AndréaRaquel

Talking Over Your Own Head | You Might Be A PorchMonkey

#LivingSugarFree #PMPSA:

I understand that the only business some folks have online is to ride on the content of others and that’s okay. But you look like an idiot if you comment on a post, blog or send a private message criticizing someone  or worse attempting to educate them, because of a post they made to spark discussion. You will look like a bigger idiot, if you did it cowardly in secret and they make your post public.

Not only that (and you probably don’t care about this or you wouldn’t be doing it this way)… giving unsolicited, unfounded advice can be very dangerous. How do you know if your advice will help or hurt if you have no foundation for it except your own bias and opinion?

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If you don’t understand Marketing and/or business in general, let me help you.
Either play along for the sake of discussion, be supportive, ad value, or keep your mouth shut and avoid looking like a fool.

International networking:
Do u think or just talk when dealing with various cultures & languages? Pause if u don’t get it, translate, and think or ask. The jokes is always on you if you’re rude and then wrong due to language barrier and assumptions. The real tip here is don’t try to loard yourself over strangers just because you think they will take it.

Welcome to Living Sugar Free, it’s tight but it’s right.

That is all.

Let’s discuss it… http://xeeme.com/AndréaRaquel